I am writing about dissociation again as it seems to fill every space in my practice while at the same time being something that remains hidden from most people. The nature of dissociation is that it remains hidden from the person who experiences it and from everyone in society. It is a way in which we remain sane and it is very functional.
For me, it has taken a lifetime for me to really become aware of my own dissociation and as I have seen my own, I have also seen everyone else’s. The clients I have with the greatest trauma are the ones with the greatest dissociation. This is often, as I have also experienced, sexual abuse and/or neglect. This kind of abuse creates a tear in our sense of self. It breaks us apart so that we are able to survive.
I think this is true of all of us, we all break apart in order to survive, and whether it is invasion (abuse) or isolation (neglect) we do not do well with a lack of respect and care. Instead, we break, and we find a way to be okay with what we are given, no matter what that is, especially as children.
Later, we have to clean that up, so that we can actually live our lives and not just hide from them, though I remain grateful to my dissociation for getting me through the unbearable parts of my life.
With such a focus on dissociation, I have included two relevant videos in this blog to help address it and ensure you are still caring for yourself, in the mix.
So please, try these practices with me in the videos below.
Wishing you freedom,
Lou
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